As published on Collective World by Filiz Behaettin.
Are you suffering from negative self-talk? Constantly setting goals, only to continually doubt yourself and fail? Can’t figure out how to let go of the annoying negative thoughts lingering in your head? If this sounds like you, don’t worry, you are not alone! This easy five-step process will assist you in letting go of the negative emotions and unwanted thoughts that no longer serve you. Each of us has a greater power within us to change our thoughts and feelings. By the end of this article, you will learn how to find yourself in harmony with your emotions and authentic self.
1. Acknowledge your emotions
The most harmful way to deal with your emotions is to ignore them. Negative emotions and thoughts should be acknowledged. You need to take the time to feel and acknowledge your feelings, as uncomfortable as that may be. Don’t rush to get rid of them; instead, take a few minutes to understand why you are feeling the way you are. Some people even go to the extent of trying to hold back their tears, but if we want to get rid of our negative emotions, we must first acknowledge their existence.
2. Release and let go
After taking the time to acknowledge your emotions and why you are feeling the way you are, ask yourself, “Do the negative emotions I harbor serve my greater good?” The chances are that the answer to this question will be a no. If something does not serve you and your higher self, then we must let it go. This includes negative self-talk and emotions that put us in a low vibrational state. We are vibrational beings; holding onto negative thoughts and emotions will only distract us from our greater good, so let it go and release what does not serve you. If you still struggle with this process, go to a quiet place and take a few minutes to breathe deeply and slowly and repeat the following affirmation: “I acknowledge my negative emotions, but you no longer serve my greater good, and as such, I let you go and release you.”
3. Practice gratitude
Gratitude is one of the most powerful tools in keeping negative thoughts away, and best of all, it only takes a few minutes of your day. Practicing gratitude on a daily basis will enable you to stay in a state of harmony while celebrating all the good around you. It is one of the most effective yet undervalued techniques used to deal with negative emotions. To do this exercise, each day when you wake, take time to list in your mind all the things you are grateful for. You will need to do this for five minutes each day. It is important you only focus on what you are grateful for and do not get distracted with other thoughts or tasks during this exercise. The idea of this exercise is to keep you in a state of positivity and enable you to celebrate the blessings in your life rather than the things that do not align with your higher self. After some time, you will realize that your body will gradually shift into a positive vibrational state and will no longer hold onto the negative emotions it once did.
4. Be kind to yourself
Often while we exercise kindness to others, we are the hardest on ourselves. We are quick to point the finger and look at finding every possible fault within ourselves. Unfortunately, we are our own worst critics, but it doesn’t have to be this way. When you find yourself passing judgment, repeat the following affirmation at least three times: “I am a unique being, filled with love, kindness, and strength. I am in harmony with myself.” Learning to be kind is essential in letting go of negative self-talk. Constantly finding fault with yourself only emphasizes negative self-talk and emotions. There is only one of you in this world, which makes you a special and unique being! So, be kind to yourself!
5. Don’t make it personal
When dealing with difficult situations involving others, whether work-related or personal, we often blame ourselves for how things turn out. The best way to deal with this is to take a moment to step outside the situation and look at it from the perspective of a third person. Take a few minutes to do some deep breathing and acknowledge that you are not the only one in this situation. You need to understand that you can only control your own emotions and the way you react. Do not take emotions that are not yours and make them personal or enable the negative emotions to consume you.
It is important to understand that you and only you can choose which vibrational state you are in. While there’s no doubt that we come across challenging situations that can increase our negative self-talk and emotions, it is up to us whether we stay stagnant in emotions that do not serve our higher self. This easy five-step process can be used in any situation, but remember, it is not something that you should only practice once. Getting rid of emotions that do more harm than good requires an ongoing commitment, which is why I suggest you practice the above steps anytime you are feeling down or overwhelmed. You have the choice to live your life the way you want, so choose what serves your higher self.